What used to be

I just listened to a song called Samson by Regina Spektor.  One line in the song is "your hair was long when we first met".  In the story of Samson the love of his life convinces him over time to relinquish the secret of his strength.  When she cuts away his hair he loses his strength.  It is funny how we try to change each other and then one day are surprised to find someone else.  After removing all the rough edges we miss the roughness.  Women want men to be more like women and vice versa.  In the end we all become genderless and no one is happy.  Now Samson's hair was merely symbolic of a deeper inner commitment which he gave up for her, and by doing so lost himself.